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Compared to others I am a hopeless case

Do you have problems with your job? Are your prospects particularly bad?
There was a professor in Baltimore who went to the slums and had his students do 200 case studies of adolescents and their future prospects. Here’s the result: The case studies stated that none of the kids really did have a prospect at all! They said that all 200 of them would simply remain in the slums. Twenty years down the road another professor sent out his students in order to find those 200 people to see what in fact had happened to them. Twenty of them had moved to an unknown address or had passed away. But 176 out of the remaining 180 people had made an astounding career as lawyers, doctors, sales or business people! They all gave the same answer to the question as to why this had been possible: our teacher! Since the lady was still alive they went out and asked her how she had managed to help and support the kids so much. “Oh that was easy,” she said. “I just loved all of them.”
If you feel like reading more uplifting stories like this read “Chicken Soup for the Soul” by Canfield/Hansen.
Are you sure that your prospects are worse than those of the kids in the slums of Baltimore? Isn’t it wonderful news that all it takes to be successful is love? Love yourself first and make sure that you take good care of yourself and your well-being. If you feel drained and have low energetic levels your orders might not work because you might not hear that inner voice that sends you to the right place at the right time. And even if you were there you might not realize the opportunities. This is why it is so important to put yourself in first place and to take care of your Self. The more you empower yourself, the more you will do things that suit you and the easier it will be to see the opportunities and seize them!

Two American children, Carla Derric and Leslie Wilson lost an eye and 50% of her lung, respectively, due to cancer. But they would not moan about their personal suffering. Instead they felt like helping others! Together they have produced a video-tape called “You’ll make it!” for kids also diagnosed with cancer. In the video they answer questions help hundreds of children to deal with their diagnosis. “Cancer has changed my life”, Carla says. “I hadn’t experienced anything worse before. But I moved though it and now I’m not frightened anymore.”

When Kristin Belanger turned 9 she read about the perilous situation of the rainforest in a Greenpeace newspaper. Immediately she decided to take action! Along with her friend Mary she initiated the “Day of the Rainforest” in her school. All the kids from her class joined them and they raised $700 US. But Kristen was not satisfied with the money. She had already collected approximately one ton of clothes to give to the poor. Kristen is a joyful being and she seizes the chance to make a difference and make the world a little better.


Kory Johnson was also nine years old when her older sister died of cancer. Kory started her own research and found that there were an inordinate number of cancer patients in their neighbourhood. She started a movement called “Children for a Safe Environment” and signed up 300 neighbourhood members. They have fought and won a number of battles against corrupt companies who tried to dump toxic waste in poor neighbourhoods. Kory was awarded the Goldman Price for Environmental Affairs and endowed with a whopping $125,000 US! A renowned women’s organisation put her on a list of 10 shining examples in 1999.

What do 9-year-olds have that each of us might not have? I believe Henry Ford was right when he said that things are more difficult for you as long as you think they are! And it’s your choice to alter your thoughts!